This is Sebastian

I help grown-ups grow up

“A recurring theme in my life is ‘growing up.’ I come from a loving family. My parents loved me – and each other – very much, but my father came out of the war emotionally wounded. He never really grew up. Being an only child shaped me into who I am today. I’ll admit I have some immature traits; I can be naive, impulsive, juvenile. But over the course of my life, I’ve learned to not let the ‘shadow sides’ limit me and instead, to harness the benefits of being young at heart. That’s how I help myself – by being aware of it, understanding who I am, making responsible choices – and that’s how I help others, too.”

Sebastian and his way of working

“My work is meaningful to me when I’m able to help people realise what they’re made of. That they’re working according to a lifetime theme that affects them. Even with the best of intentions, too many people operate from old patterns. Intelligent people, for instance, can do very stupid things. If I can hold up a mirror, and awaken their awareness, it helps.

‘There are no difficult people, only bad trainers’

We don’t always receive a warm welcome. At times, the reception can be chilly —if not downright drafty. I don’t mind that. As we sometimes say, there are no difficult people, only bad trainers. When we kick off with a group, there are always a few who aren’t feeling it. They feel it is forced on them, that it has to be done. Though, my questions is: why did you say ‘yes’? You are free to go. But hey, why not try it for a half-hour or so? You might just change your mind.”

‘When emotions run high, I don’t go and fix it. I’m just there’

During larger sessions, we form a circle. It’s the oldest way people come together. No one’s in charge, but there are roles. It’s safe, friendly, and open. If emotions run high, I feel it, I listen, but I don’t fix, repair or rescue. I’m just there. After taking a deep breath, I pull someone back from the brink by asking the right questions, by showing what’s there, and honing in on how it can lead to something beautiful in the future.”

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  • Interests: Psychology, reading, cooking, philosophy, yoga and meditation, family man
  • Word that fits like a glove: Playing
  • Character: Competitive
  • Goosebump moment: When participants tell us that things are also better at home, thanks to our training sessions
  • Role: Partner RedZebra Group
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